I always want to write about this unique experience to show how Emergenetics (EG) from our point of view. This real life story took place in September 2011 between me and my social preference girl Maria Qibtiyah. This is even more impressive because we see how EG works when we took our 3 days EG associate class in Singapore.
We departed from Jakarta togather, feeling so excited about the new knowledge that we about to get. We were planning to also explore the city inside out. It turned out, we learn how me and Maria differently processing the world and made us realise how we react differently bcoz of it.
OUR PROFILE
Maria is a red preference, i think she is uni-modal red preference. Its shows clearly in her action. She have genuine care for others, always put others first before her, relating and connecting with people is a natural things for her. She is warm and friendly. If i am not mistaken, she is also flexible, 2/3 in her behavioral preferences.
Now my profile, i am a tri-modal green - red - blue. I am a dominant left brain, very logical about most of things. Thorough consideration, i can see multiple point of view, getting along with most kind of people *grin*. My behavioral preferences is 3/3 assertiveness, and 2/3 flexibility and expressiveness. With me, it really depends ;). I can be so quite at one occasion, but i can be so lively in different occasion, it depends.
OUR EG STORIES
As we go thru EG session day by day, and understand its concept. With our different profile, we can see it very clearly how our thinking preferences process the world and how that make us react so uniquely. I just realize this when we have early discussion to sum up yesterday session. Then i have the opportunity to share our interesting stories in front of other EG associate and here is our funny stories...
A. Our bus ride
Every night we planned to eat dinner at different places. And this time, we want to visit one mall, since our hotel is quite far from subway station, we have to use bus first. I always hang on to Singapore map, so does Maria, but here is the difference, on most critical moment, Maria didn't hang on to it *LOL*
Base on the map, we know which station is the nearest, its 3 bus stop based on the map. When we got to the bust stop, i directly look at the bus line info and figure out which bus to take, i prefer this method.
Maria, as her red preference working, she decide to tap someone shoulder and asked, how to get to the nearest subway station.
Then our bus come, i told Maria directly, that it took us 3 bus stop to get there. Yet, being Maria with red preference, she got to her feet and walk towards the bus driver. Talking about weather, and then ask how far is our destination, guess what? 3 bus stop! Hahaha... I was quite amazed, how she insist to do that method, later i realize, that's what is natural for her, i find it amusing how we act differently to achieve one similar clear goal.
B. Reading Signs
The interest to read sign is strong for my preference, but definitely not for Maria. She almost didn't notice that the sign is there (no matter how flashy or huge it is). In Singapore, the city pace is very fast, we can tell from the way people walk, fast and efficient. When we ride an elevator, those who wish to take it slower will stand to the left, to give the chance for those who want to move faster a room to go thru on the right side. We aware of it.
In one of the station, there is a huge sign, posted over a wall (as long as the elevator) emphasizing that. Yet that day, Maria decide to stand and lean (relaxing) on the right side. I tap her shoulder and said, we gotta stand on the left, and point to the huge sign on the wall. She laughed and move to the left side.
For a left-brain-er, we might wonder, how come she didnt notice that huge sign? For her, that sign isnt her interest and her brain process didnt take that into account.
Another funny thing happened in the train. There is always a sign on which door that will open (flashy sign on top of the subway door), again Maria didnt process such information, she stand on the wrong side (it made me laughed). I tap her shoulder (again) and said, Maria... this side (pointing to the other side of the door). She asked me, how do you know? I smile and point to a flashy sign on top of the door. She laughed (we laughed).
C. An old Lady need a Help
On our first night exploring Singapore, we happened to meet an old Lady trying to reach her destination. She seems quite confuse of which train to take to get to her destination. She happened to asked us (who also trying to figure out how to reach our destination), well the first one to respond is off course Maria. She got busy to see the map and trying to explain that she needed to transfer her train. Theoretically, we know that (from the map) but when we look at our surroundings we got confuse too (it was our first night too in Singapore). I then said to the Old Lady that it will be better for her to go to see one of the officer or to information center and they will be able to guide her. Maria seems sooo disappointed of not able to help the Old Lady. We walk away trying to find our own way, less then 10 steps and Maria turn back to the Old Lady and asked her if she needed further help and make sure she talk to the officer on duty. I smile, that,s how strong a uni-modal red preference is... so compassionate towards others.
D. The math behind Emergenetics
Taking associate course, one of the part that we have to know is the math behind it, its how things being calculated and the numbers related to technical side of EG. The group has been divided based on our thinking preferences. Its amusing to see how the left brain see it as logic and simple, but the right brain seems astonished and trying to grasp it to the best extent they can.
Each of us then got an assignment for the math behind EG. In our hotel, Maria said, Heny... can you tell me again on the math. Then she changed her mind, she said, i got to read it on the manual book. I smile and said, yes, that will be an awesome idea.
During her reading, she often checks her understanding to me, whether she got it right, whether her understanding is correct ;) She finally made it on her own. As much as i know her, she made an effort of learning without asking first, which i know it is hard for her. Maria learning process is faster when she got direct conversation, sharing, stories, but she made it! Yay!
Meanwhile for me, it only took a couple of scratches and all done. Its when i left brain people come strong with, data, numbers, analysis.
E. My Flexibility
During the last day, we have this contemplation and sharing moments with everyone, and i shared our stories. It apparently catches everyone attention, how we can see EG application on our daily life. We laugh, smile, discuss and share that our kind of story is the story that will help all EG associate to explain easily how we see EG in our daily life.
Up until now, that stories will be me and Maria's treasure to relate EG to new people. Its easy, its actual, its a real experience! We had a great moment with EG Asia, the associates and we share same passion that EG is a very useful tools to understand our uniqueness and others.
